Friday, February 6, 2009
2/6/09 #2
I had to comment on the Octuplets birth in Southern CA. It's been bothering me since the story was released and I am pretty sick of hearing people's hate and general mean spiritedness comments on their birth or where they came from. It's not pretty what you see on many comment sections ranging from blaming fertility drugs for the worlds overpopulation problems to criticizing women who use fertility drugs instead of adopting and calling them selfish. Some people are saying women shouldn't be allowed to use fertility drugs b/c of the large number of multiple births when in fact this is the minority. Women walk into a fertility clinic seeking one baby and one baby only and the doctors try for one baby. A lot get no babies at all, some get one (like my husband and I did) and a set few get more than one. Most clinics will only "transfer" not "implant" (the media and the woman who had the 8 babies keeps saying) 2 at the most. The people who are commenting on most of the websites are probably insensitive, uneducated and spewing hate b/c they have nothing better to do. Seeking treatment for infertility is a right any woman should have and it is not selfish to do so. The people who are judging fertility patients for wanting a biological child need to get educated on the fertility process. What has happened is rare. It is a gamble walking into a clinic but when you are faced with not being able to conceive you take that gamble. It is a natural desire to want your own child. Adopting is a beautiful thing but not for everyone. You can't judge until in that position. And the overpopulation problem isn't due to the small number of families that decide to do fertility treatments. Our country is flooded by immigrants everyday that we as a country pay for and provide services too. I will not judge these people for wanting a better life for their children and themselves but when people judge fertility patients for "overpopulating" then you really need to look at reality. Fertility patients are not our problem. Most of them have enough money to provide for their children or they wouldn't have had the money to do the treatments in the first place. It seems that this woman is being judged b/c she is a single mom and raising children on her own. Personally I think she has too many kids too but that's not to say that for her that number is fine. I question what treatments she did have b/c this has not been clearly mentioned yet. I would love to hear the doctor that treated her and know exactly what she did. Until then, I will not judge her and just hope all of her babies are staying healthy.
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Did you read my facebook post? SHE has clearly stated it was in-vetro. "Nadya Suleman says she tried for seven years to get pregnant before she successfully conceived with in-vitro fertilization at a facility – "and then I just kept going in.""
ReplyDeletehttp://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20257365,00.html
I agree with you that most people are just going in for one baby and often get none. I don't think that most people are saying things about her because of her in-vetro. I think it's because she has just filed for bankrupcy and then went in and decided to have another child. She has no money, 6 other kids, and lived with her parents, because she can't afford anything else. It's a little selfish to have a child when she's living in her parents' home and using their money to help pay for the ones she has.
I don't think it's a mean judgement that people are commenting on her. She's the one who seems to be wanting the attention. She wanted $2 million to be on Oprah. I know that she will need the money now, so I understand wanting the free diapers and stuff, but money to just appear on someone's show?
I too hope that the babies are healthy and will be well cared for. I dont have any ill feelings towards her or any of the processes it takes (in fact, I will probably need them myself). I'm just saying that I believe "transferring" 4 eggs at once is irresponsible.
I'm sure we'll know even more soon.
I did read your facebook post. And I know what she has stated. She has stated 3 different transfer numbers now 4,6 and her mom stated 8. I also know she has said it was in-vitro but still hasn't released her doctors name or medical information. There is a reason she isn't releasing it and it has yet to be discovered. I will understand and believe the medical side of it once the doctors info has been released.
ReplyDeleteMy comment wasn't really about Nadya Suleman. My comment was about all of the comments posted on many many different websites geared toward fertility patients and saying this would never have happened if it wasn't for fertility treatments.
I do think that it is mean spirited to judge anyone especially not knowing the whole story. This whole thing has put a sour taste in the mouths of fertility patients and it's sad. Most people do not keep going back and back to get 14 kids out of it but who's to say that doctors should have limited the number of kids a person can have. There are MANY people everyday that have many many kids that they can not afford. This is someone who went about it a different way that ended up in the same boat. And if you look up the info she never filed for bankruptcy her mom did. I too think she probably had ill judgement for doing what she did but I am not her and do not know her so I refuse to judge her based on something I don't know. What I do know is the situation many people are in and to say transferring 4 eggs is irresponsible is just wrong. The law is not against the doctors, it is just recommended, b/c there could be 4 "not so good" embryos and they will transfer all four with minimal odds of implanting. There are many people out there that never get any and transfer 4-6. I just think it's sad that people (on many website comment sections) are judging fertility patients on something that is very rare.